We’ve all been there, we’ve all wanted to be who we aren’t, we’ve all pretended. Some better than others… Saying you’ve never wanted to be larger than life is like saying you haven’t tried to pee ‘quietly’ when boo is around, it is not true and holds no water to argue as such! I feel uncomfortable peeing even when my own schoolmates are around. Imagine what reading Biko’s male perspective segment does to that, when peeing loudly is ranked as a thing women do that men don’t like, it’s preposterous! (always wanted to use that word) Anyway, I digress. Today we talk about the days when we have known that…

‘Leaving things to chance is a recipe for disaster…’ so says Robert in the Art of Seduction. He believes we all have a seductive quality and sitting and watching things fall in place is simply laziness. So if things falling into place is a myth, then there is so much we need to unlearn. If we do believe indeed that Greene is right in his thinking. What then about beauty, is that also a myth? Is it in the eyes of the bearer, beholder or beer holder? A few weeks ago I asked a group of friends why they believed a thick woman was better than a skinny woman. ‘Because…

It’s a Saturday morning and I’m contemplating my weekly failures. First, I lost an argument this week, it was pretty hard to admit defeat but oh well! My partner in court asked me if you could have a best friend as a person of the opposite sex, I didn’t put much thought to it, of course you can, right? Until he asked the same question to someone of greater wisdom, I thought she’d pick my side, I really did. She started by asking why a 5 year old boy and girl will kiss while they are alone in a room, I was like uuuurrrrrmmm,,,eeeehhh,,, No clue😪 But they are just…

I got a comment on my post last year, the one I asked ladies what kind of guy they would date, if you missed it I’ll put the link down below. The guy said, ” I met my love last year. Happily married now. We weren’t long time friends nor childhood friends. But now we are. When I met her I knew she was different from the many girls I have dated. We got mutual feelings so I never let her go, same case her.“ I died, literally, I mean first thank God people actually read this blog, and secondly, he never let go and neither did she. It’s been…

My mum just sent me the video above a couple of days ago and it probably wasn’t the first time I heard of it or watched it. It basically talks of a man who sued the school system for drilling us to think we are fish that can climb trees. It had me intrigued, very much actually that I wondered exactly why I am in school if all I am doing is being programmed for a certain number of hours a day, months a year and probably 21-30 years of my life. Is that much time in school worth it? Then I thought, why not just quit school. I mean…

Over the years I’ve always tried to come up with a picture of what heaven is like but  due to the fear instilled in me of reading the book of Revelation I really don’t know if my idea of pavements of gold and fully furnished mansions  with pools and escalators inside does me any justice. However, what I have taken into consideration is judgement day, in my head we’ll all be naked in a big hall and everyone’s life will be played on an a billion inch flat screen wireless tv from birth to death and somehow we’ll all know who the other is meaning you’ll have to answer for…

So today I went for a morning run, just like any other day only I’ve never gone on a weekend its usually the weekdays where you go twice or thrice, if your feeling cool maybe everyday then cheat all weekend. But this morning I had to go for a run because oh well, I’ve been obsessed about hot dogs of late, those naivas ones pale mountain mall and the god of calories is always faithful to make sure I get the attendant putting soy sauce on the onions just when I give my receipt…or read my order as two hot dogs instead of one…who can resist that… in their good…

This week something has been bugging me. There’s  this theory that people have about ‘not wanting too much’ and this other line about ‘not settling for less’ and I get it, I get that in this generation we want a tone of things from other people be they parents, partners, colleges and the like. But here’s the thing that I really don’t understand why we expect so much from others and we don’t give towards the cause.  Correct me if am wrong and forgive me if am judgy but if you have a boyfriend and a sponsor please pick one. I hear stories of how ladies tell their boyfriends they…