It’s a Saturday morning and I’m contemplating my weekly failures.
I lost an argument this week, it was pretty hard to admit defeat but oh well!
My partner in court asked me if you could have a best friend as a person of the opposite sex, I didn’t put much thought to it, of course you can, right?
Until he asked the same question to someone of greater wisdom,
I thought she’d pick my side, I really did.
She started by asking why a 5 year old boy and girl will kiss while they are alone in a room, I was like uuuurrrrrmmm,,,eeeehhh,,,
But they are just friends right?
Then I used my friends as a scapegoat, threw them from the frying pan to the gates of hell,
“But I know these guys who are besties and are boy a girl, I’m sure the girl would walk in naked and the guy wouldn’t have sex with her.”
The looks I got, fam🤐
I mean I thought I sounded pretty smart until I heard my statement echo at the back of my brain.
“How old do you think I am, Haya Basi you and Ben* go in a room and get naked, si you’re friends? Good, go and see if that won’t ‘affect’ him.” Came the brutal response.
I mean I’m now scared of being in a room with a boy now since my whole idea of a friendship has been messed up.
Sasa, I’m just here realising the struggle of having a girl as a best friend, don’t get me wrong, I have my squad, they just have other best friends and my best friend, or ex-best friend in this case is a boy 😒.
Sad life fam,
Really sad, the analogy is that in such a friendship, either party will develop feelings for the other and hide behind the friendship, then years later you have awkward moments 😣
Sasa, warrrathese issues, too much knowledge is vanity. I liked not knowing.
If I didn’t know this, thankfully as a result of the overwhelming naivity I suffer from, I would be as confident as ever being in the same room as a friend who is a boy, since they can’t be my best friend now, I’ll have to be normal and avoid my weird side at a time I didn’t think I needed to give a rat’s ass!😕
Now I know, I have to take precaution, sit like a girl when around boys, not be too funny lest I send the wrong message maybe even walk around with a flashlight to see any wrong vibes I’m sending 😒 especially now that Valentine’s day is around the corner I don’t think I want a guy friend to magically fall in love with me when I have no clue.
But for the record there is one guy, oh heavens!😌 If he wants a best friend by night and girlfriend by Tuesday then we can see if this rule works, for trial and errors sake,
Take everything with a pinch of salt… You know?
Then worry not I’ll come here and tell you how it went,
Maybe it’s my time to benefit from this friendship 😌😮
What do you think though? Can there just be a genuine friendship, rather bff relationship, between a boy and girl?
I’m still having my doubts
Let me know on the comment section or any of my social media, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat @glynismaina what you think about this.
Have a great weekend.